This is a post on how to screw up a totally awesome friendship.
The best way to do that is to forget your boundaries, there may be things that you are kind of hoping for or you think might be developing but actually forcing anyone into that scenario is a bad idea. Even if they weren't seeming to mind it too much at the time. Although that could be attributed to being high.
Even then its still a bad idea.
The next worst thing to do is not talk about it at all afterwards, trust me you should talk about it. If nothing else, laughing it off can at least ease the tensions that may otherwise build up and cause your cold to graduate to a full on flu. Also not talking would make the parties involved so awkward with one another that they now speak in monosyllables where once they had to physically restrain the other person to get a word in edgewise.
Bad bad bad scenario that.
After all that comes your own lovely head screaming things that you would usually hear in a college dorm catfight and since its all in your head you can't even turn the bloody thing off and feel better. Soon comes the guilt that would put a child-murderer to shame. Speaking of shame, that comes along too in bundles and bundles, so many bundles that in a way you start wishing that it could magically turn into money so that you can move out of your parent's house.
Keep concentrating on your head and you might need therapy.
Then its the turn of the things everyone else's head is saying, namely friends and family and some innocent bystanders too. If you're lucky and your friends aren't really your friends they'll tell you exactly what you want to hear even if that is furthest from the truth. True friends will let you know that everything your head is screaming is perfectly true and therapy wouldn't be so bad for you right now.
Nothing like confirmation of your stupidity.
Now comes the part when everything is in utter shambles and you're wondering if its even worth getting up in the morning because in your dreams the world is just peachy. But unfortunately you can't sleep forever unless you're in a coma, so you just get up everyday and face everything and hope that the day is not far when you start to forget the whole mess and hopefully get a new friend with whom you'll be more careful while you're at it. Because you can't literally die of embarrassment so might as well hope for less of them in the future and count these incidents as training modules.
The best way to do that is to forget your boundaries, there may be things that you are kind of hoping for or you think might be developing but actually forcing anyone into that scenario is a bad idea. Even if they weren't seeming to mind it too much at the time. Although that could be attributed to being high.
Even then its still a bad idea.
The next worst thing to do is not talk about it at all afterwards, trust me you should talk about it. If nothing else, laughing it off can at least ease the tensions that may otherwise build up and cause your cold to graduate to a full on flu. Also not talking would make the parties involved so awkward with one another that they now speak in monosyllables where once they had to physically restrain the other person to get a word in edgewise.
Bad bad bad scenario that.
After all that comes your own lovely head screaming things that you would usually hear in a college dorm catfight and since its all in your head you can't even turn the bloody thing off and feel better. Soon comes the guilt that would put a child-murderer to shame. Speaking of shame, that comes along too in bundles and bundles, so many bundles that in a way you start wishing that it could magically turn into money so that you can move out of your parent's house.
Keep concentrating on your head and you might need therapy.
Then its the turn of the things everyone else's head is saying, namely friends and family and some innocent bystanders too. If you're lucky and your friends aren't really your friends they'll tell you exactly what you want to hear even if that is furthest from the truth. True friends will let you know that everything your head is screaming is perfectly true and therapy wouldn't be so bad for you right now.
Nothing like confirmation of your stupidity.
Now comes the part when everything is in utter shambles and you're wondering if its even worth getting up in the morning because in your dreams the world is just peachy. But unfortunately you can't sleep forever unless you're in a coma, so you just get up everyday and face everything and hope that the day is not far when you start to forget the whole mess and hopefully get a new friend with whom you'll be more careful while you're at it. Because you can't literally die of embarrassment so might as well hope for less of them in the future and count these incidents as training modules.
oops can't figure out, was it sarcastic??? or advice??? or what was that???
ReplyDeletesummed up nicely though.
That was my state of mind actually... Its sarcastic truth!
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